Monday, February 11, 2008

Awkward Valentines...


Valentine's Day...

We're screwed, fellers. Valentine's Day is set to fall on weekends for two straight years starting in 2009. Thank God for the leap year. The extra day is somehow making us skip a Friday.

But seriously, as previously mentioned, I'm not opposed to V'Day. My only gripe is that it has become a woman-centric holiday when word is that it was named after two dudes (not that there's anything wrong with that).

But here's the question du jour. What's the V'Day procedure in the dating's early stages? For instance, you met a girl three weeks ago, went out with her three times and V'Day pops up. What's appropriate? What if your first freaking date falls on V'Day? My friend Aishah suggested that a card is appropriate. Cool, but is the dude getting something? And if the guy treats the date like any other date before that, is he a scumbag? Speak on it!

8 comments:

ChocoDeluxe said...

I've come to treat V-Day as an "I Love Me" day...pampering, shopping, and just being good to myself. But this year, I've had my eye on a couple of dudes who I wouldn't mind having for a Valentine. When the connection is fresh, try not to lay the V-Day stuff on too thick, but don't bypass the whole thing either! Find an intimate setting to continue to get to know each other better, and keep it light (unless that's not your intention...lol)

In short, just enjoy the day...

Im just, Im just *Rika* from the Block!!! said...

Yes, the dude has to get something!!! At least mine is...I happen to be one of the few unlucky women out there whose boyfriend's birthday falls on FEBRUARY 14TH!!!!! So guess what, it will never be about ME on V-day!!!

*Did that just sound like a rant?

No seriously, I do believe Valentine's Day, both partners should have over-the-top surprises and gifts for each other...it's honestly the only day of the year you can get away with being completely cheesy and NOT get clowned...

MeLa said...

sorry, homie.. but while you'll probably never hear me echo this sentiment again, this one falls mostly on yall!!. UNLESS you have a serious GF.

In the case of casual-to- maybe-formal dating where you see said woman relatively frequently (say twice a week or more for the last 2-3 wks), something is required. I'd say something decidedly non- committal while acknowledging the existence of the day.... a "you aint my girl but I'm not gonna dodge u for the wk beginning the 9th, so here's some cheap flowers and/ or some drugstore candy" gift. Is that too much to ask?

Honestly, for a girl like me, to take 5 minutes over a card with a cute animal on the cover, and say something sweet and funny on the inside, will go further than the well- meaning but unimaginative dude who took me to, say, Houstons, cuz he heard it in a rap record. (Cuz my values are all screwed up, according to all my married friends LMAO!!) (also cuz i LOVE ads that contain animals with human personality traits. Im a sucker for good advertising. :))

crystyles said...

Well I just started dating someone. I am going to give him a card and a box of chocolates. By the way, it is not a holiday for females alone. I always give the guy that I am with something very special catered to his personalities. Everyone should feel loved on Valentines day.

Jackpot aka H.D. aka Desckabaisses said...

God Bless Crystyles! But you Mela...you ain't even mention nothinig about giving the dude nothing. Booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Aishah3 said...

lol here we go...so valentine's day. I agree with most of the sentiments stated here. If you're dating someone, yes get them something, albeit, something cheap. Alittle knick-knack just to show that, "Hey you're on my mind, and I look at you more than just a play buddy," for lack of a better term. I understand guys who say, ooh it's a holiday created by "the man" etc etc. But ultimately if you're with your girl, or someone that has the potential to be your girl, wouldn't your first thought be, "Hey, I want to make this girl feel special, so let me place my feelings about this man-made holiday on the backburner for now, and dig up a couple dollers to put a smile on her face." Or maybe that's just me and my romantical thoughts...lol..Carry on...

Miss Chi said...

In general, when in a relationship, I think if you can make your partner feel special year round, Valentines Day isn't too much of a big deal. I feel some people use Valentines Day as a day to make up or prove something they should be doing regularly.

To address your specific question about just meeting someone and Vday popping up. I think it depends on how much youre into the person. If you're interested in continuing to get to know her, then a nice card is cool or if you know her fav candy, then its simple yet thoughtful.

My question is..what the heck do guys even want for Vday (besides the obvious nookie)?

Anonymous said...

My fiance:

"See! I'm glad I bought you those flowers! I'd pay any price for an orchid when it gets me some good lovin from you like I got last night..."