My dating life's pretty much been the same the past few years.
I meet girls, but hardly ever become interested no matter what. Of course, I take full responsibility. I just seem to always find something wrong with the prospects. Not to say I'm God's gift to women, far from it. Compatibility just isn't something I take too lightly, so I get even more particular when it comes to romance. I initially didn't think I was to blame for meeting the same woman over and over. After all, I have absolutely no control over meeting Harlem women in both the city and Brooklyn. It just seemed to happen that way. But the thing is, I always seem to meet them at parties, bars or clubs whenever I do go. Frankly, I'm sick of it. But where else am I supposed to meet someone really?
Folks refuse to acknowlege the club as a legitimate meeting ground, but it makes our lives that much easier. At this point, most of us have it down to a science. We know what to do, what to say and when to say it. It just doesn't apply anywhere else. An overwhelming amount of women I've spoken to over the years have co-signed the train as an acceptable approach location. The first step doesn't seem like an easy one, though. Commuters are pretty anti-social to begin with, so it seems like any approach requires some kind of interruption, which just feels rude and just isn't a good look. Like, shorty is listening to her iPod and you cut in for a commercial break.
I've also heard of coffee shops and book stores. But again, what's the approach? Is that decaff? I heard this book sucks? Perhaps? As for work, it's out of the question for me. I mean, some of my co-workers have found love, married or have kids, but I just couldn't picture myself getting involved with a co-worker. It's sort of a rule of mine. Then again, if Freida Pinto was to be my new co-worker, I'd probably try to break it quick fast.
I actually think college was the best place and time to meet people. But seriously, I don't think the club is the best spot to meet women, I just think it's the easiest. The thing is, whether people admit it or not, a large part of going out is to meet people. It's part of the agenda. My friend also mentioned bars and lounges, but what makes them any better than clubs? I think clubs are dissmissed because if it works out, nobody wants to say, "Yea, I met my wife at Mansion. I seen her shaking her ass, so I jumped behind her. It was love at first hump." Plus the club is just more of a fooling around type of scene. The train or book stores just sound better. What I like about the book store is that the hook up has to just happen...At least in my opinion. Like, s0mething has to spark the conversation rather than one of the two, intentionally starting it.
Anyway, where do you guys usually meet people? Ladies, is there such a thing as a bad place? Fellers, how do you usually approach a woman? Now if you excuse me, I'm heading to Barnes & Noble.